We love our parents. Since the moment we are born, it is our innate desire to love and cherish what our parents do for us. As children, we see them as invincible. However, as the years go by, we start to notice slight changes that remind us that aging is a process. Then our parents become more dependent on our assistance or guidance. The world changes around them and sometimes they feel helpless. My mother is a prime example. With the world around her changing to digital, she can’t help, but feel like she can’t help herself. For parents, this transition can be extremely difficult and depression.
Being a health proxy for a loved one can be a tough role, but this doesn’t mean it should be done alone. As someone who helps my mother on a daily basis with tasks, I have three tips that can help you be a strong support to your aging parents.
Remember You’re Not Alone. There Is Help.
You’re not alone. If you have family members that are supportive, don’t be afraid to ask for help. It’s not an easy road to be the main support for your loved one. However, there are home care agencies out there that can assist too. Professional help is more affordable and can alleviate the struggles that come with providing the best care for your parents. They deserve the same attention they gave you. Nevertheless, as humans, stress is inevitable. The more help our parents receive the better it is for them in the long run. When you build a network of caregivers and support, you’ll find that you can breathe again.
Know Your Parent
You may think you know parent, but this is not always the case. I like to have a sit down with my mother and ask her how she feels. When I do this, I realize that not everything is how it appears. Your parents may be struggling with more than they let on. This has to do due with the fact that they are used to being independent and the prime caregivers of the household. We get caught up in our ego and pride. It’s normal. Being a support, is understanding what your parent needs and why they need it.
Stay Strong
This is a cliché phrase with little meaning, yet unforgettable symbolism. How can you stay strong when the world seems to crumble around you? Though you may not believe in yourself, take a step at a time or a breath at a time. It gets easier with time to help the ones you love the most. When you show strength, it motivates others to do the same. You can get through it. You’ll see the light at the end of the tunnel and find happiness when you realize that you were stronger than you realize.
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